Overthinking makes small things, even small issues, into something much bigger. It adds extra drama to our minds. It creates a movie about things we probably don't need, and a lot of things we shouldn't bother doing. But we do, and it happens to us.Your thoughts start attacking you. You start doubting yourself in your mind, your words, your looks, your actions; you become very happy with all this. Even for yourself and sometimes in front of others who probably would not have done anything wrong to you. But you start feeling that I am the one who is wrong. There must be some mistake of mine. I do not look beautiful. I do not look good. I cannot talk well. Your confidence goes down a lot. You become very introverted. You cannot share your feelings with anyone in all these things. You feel that I wish someone understood me, but perhaps there was no need to react so much, so I used so much English. This is the problem: we think too much.
All of this has a profound effect on our sleep. We can't sleep because our minds can't switch off. We constantly struggle, constantly thinking. We get rest for a long time. Anxiety sets in. Sometimes physical health problems arise, and even digestion problems. All of this happens, and those who are overthinkers will definitely notice a major one. Migraines are a common problem. You'll notice any overthinking signal. You'll find migraines. When we overthink, we get migraines. Such thinking makes us unwell. We don't feel like doing anything. We feel like just sleeping and not getting up. If we get up, we'll think about it, and bad things will happen to us. But we feel like we're just sleeping. We feel sleepy all day, and then we can't sleep at night. No matter how hard you try, no matter how long you've been awake since morning. Even at 5:00, you'll fall asleep. You constantly think about something or the other, and you keep falling asleep, and that's one of our problems. My problem with him is that he's alone a lot at night. He doesn't like being alone a lot at night because he's alone and thinking about all that. He doesn't need to think so much.
How to stop this? What should we do for this? First of all, we should calm our minds. We should stop whatever we are thinking about. Okay, secondly, we have to teach our brain that whatever we are thinking, it may be wrong, and it may be right too. So suppose you were sleeping with someone the day before yesterday, and you are asking him what he thinks about you; then you can solve all these things with a clear-cut conversation, so you should have a good conversation and put these things aside; this will stop your overthinking. Or if you are an introvert and cannot talk to anyone, then write down whatever is bothering you in a notebook. When you put all these things, all these thoughts, and your feelings in the notebook, then your mind will become much lighter, and it will help you. Meaning, it will help you in getting rid of many unnecessary voices from your body, about which you probably should not have thought much. But if you bring that thing out from within you, then your mind will also become much lighter. Your mind will become much lighter.
Meditation will help you a lot. You can do it anytime, but morning is most effective. But whenever you are free in the morning or evening, do a 5-minute meditation or 10-minute meditation, like stop today and take a slow breath and focus completely on your fast and let whatever thoughts come; let them come and then leave them and just leave all those things with your fast. This will make your mind very active. Very active if you have anxiety or antineos. This will also keep you a little away from all the things. Meditation is also very important for us.Whatever is going on in your mind, talk it out. I said, if you are not able to trust someone, then you will tell them. I am not able to trust you. If he thinks well for you then he will make it clear to you. Why should you do something? Why should you not do something? If you are not able to say such a thing to a friend, then I am not able to trust you, or I do not want to be with you. If he considers you a good friend, then he will ask you what will happen to you.
You should be very focused on yourself and have a lot of control. If you feel that I should do this, then do it; if you don't feel that I should not do it, then don't do it. Don't control your mind with people's reactions, what will people think? What will happen tomorrow? If you control yourself with these things, then you will get anxious overthinking about all these things, and if you don't do it, then it will have an effect. Your attitude will improve a lot. You will become very responsible. Self confidence will come. Now you can become an extrovert. You can learn to talk to people, to have a conversation, so if it is this, then do it; if it is this, then don't do it. Now keep yourself busy and do purposeful activities, like any activity that is useful to you and has a purpose. Always remain engaged in that activity. Like exercise, painting, walking, playing, and reading—yes, learn something new. All these things create your energy. You also teach something new, and any overthinking or thoughts that are going on in your mind also go away. So by staying busy, your overthinking also reduces to a great extent.
