Befriending ourselves is a huge thing. It's like we are our best friend, we can tell anything to ourselves, we can express our true feeling, there will be no hide and seek.
I know it sounds crazy, you may say that we all are our own friends. But it's not actually. There are many who struggle to be honest with themselves.
Let me give you some examples so you can relate to them!
Suppose you lie to others about your income or financial status and you also pretend to yourself the same thing. You know that it's not true. But deep inside you make yourself believe in this falsehood.
Or say for example you lost your belief in certain things for different reasons. Now you are in a dilemma whether or not you actually believe that and you should follow what you believe. This makes you pretend more.
Now, if you don't confess to yourself about your true feeling; if you choose to make a fog around it; it will be your loss. Your mind will be such a mess, you will be so stressed about life choices.
Being certain about everything is hard but at least try to be clear about your feelings, emotions to yourself. When we pretend to ourselves, it creates a wall between us and our inner selves. And we start to become a stranger to ourselves, face bipolar disorder, become unsure about life, make our life stressful and what not.
So, be clear to yourself. Be certain about what you are doing and why, how you are feeling, and the reason behind it. Ask yourself questions, talk to yourself, give yourself time. All this will make your life so easy, you will find more peace for sure!