Greetings to all the ladies of Hive; I hope this week brings you wonderful news and love.
This week's special contest is incredibly poignant, and I overwhelmed when I saw it since I had previously undergone an emotional trauma that had a bad impact on my mental health.
I'm going to talk about what happened to me as well as the importance of prioritizing mental health in all situations where women find themselves.
I came from a Christian family where you are only supposed to be pregnant in your husband's house, not inside the house of your parents.
When I became pregnant for my boyfriend out of wedlock, I was unable to handle the pains and agony that came with it, nevertheless I'm glad that in everyday life, you do not need to fret regarding what other individuals think or say concerning you, even your immediate loved ones; all you're obligated to do is realize yourself and rebuild your life if you made the wrong decision.
I was called different names, kicked out of the house, and throughout that period, I suffered what they termed hopelessness, which I later recognized was a mental state, I missed a number of my personal items, and I eliminated friends just because I am pregnant out of wedlock. Many people labeled me various names, and I believed as if my entire existence had already died because I was paying attention to everything that they were saying about me; the longer I did, the more miserable I grew on a daily basis.
At that point, the only person standing beside me was my boyfriend. Though he was looking for work at the time and circumstances weren't quite as stable planned, I was left to deal with the grief on my own. I began looking for a job so that I could look after myself for me because the typical family support was no longer there, so I had to transform into the woman I wanted so badly to be but depression would not let.
Considering it was my very first experience, many thoughts crossed my mind, but the one I never allowed to happen was the idea of suicide since I wanted to live to meet my kid and have a family that was content. So I began to search for employment that would keep me busy. I noticed that the more I kept busy, the fewer times I thought about depression, and the more I met new individuals who were also involved in the situation; they turned out to be the individuals actually helped me, not those who were closest to me.
I met a young girl who spotted me while I had been employed as a sales representative; I was exhausted and wanted to attend to her; however, one discussion led to another, and she showed me her kid while also telling me about her personal experience at the time. She gave assistance with newborn baby supplies. This is when I started taking in the pure air of life. She introduced me to her church, where I met people who supported me till I went to service and obtained a job in Anambra state, where I presently live.
Why Did I take time to recount this experience?
The male and the female are different beings, while we (women) are highly emotional; anything we do subsequently has a huge impact on our mental health. So this explains why we ought to be concerned about it.
Do you know that shortly after I met the God-sent lady, she suggested me to get my blood pressure checked, and I discovered that my blood pressure was very high due to the fact that was unable to pay attention to anything else that came my way; all I was capable of thinking about was what people were saying concerning me and how I was going to get out of my predicament soonest.
A woman's psychological wellness should be her top concern in all situations, whether it's a relationship, finances, aspirations, or socializing. I observed that some women, like myself, get so preoccupied with their activities that they do not have the opportunity to take a mental health exam. To them, seeing a professional to assess her health appears to be a waste of money, or she may believe that the situation around her, such as the high cost of living, does not allow for it but do not consider such. I'll be giving some strategies to assist you maintain your mental health as a woman.
Actions to Maintain Control of Difficult Situations to Protect Your Mental Health
- Be content with yourself: Being content with yourself, even if you make errors, is something a woman should strive for. I am not advocating mistakes since we can gain insight from them and restructure our life. If I was aware of this, I would have redirected my attention and energy away from my depression.
Let me astonish you: when I eventually reunited with my parents, I learned that many of the individuals (ladies) who mocked me when I was pregnant also got pregnant out of wedlock. And they happen to be OK with it. but when it happened to me, I became very concerned; perhaps this was my first experience.
To be content with yourself, go to the beach, a food establishment, or any other location of fun and eat something good, after which you are going to spend the rest of your days remembering all that has happened at the place. It is preferable than spending 80% of your time reflecting on your blunders. Nobody is flawless, therefore we should cherish our flaws.
- Make time to see a health professional : Every day, we encounter someone who annoys, loves, or treats us unexpectedly. Spending weeks on the issue can lead to sadness. If you detect any changes in your body habits, you must see your doctor right away.
Because of this contest, I came up with a saying that says "if you don't prioritize your mental health, nobody else will do that for you".
- Avoid focusing on negative feedback from others: While it's natural for others to point out flaws in you, it's important not to allow it impact you. Do not listen to them, and do not cause others to feel depressed too. If you recognize someone has made a mistake, be an instrument of support instead.
- Associating with others might help you realize that your error was also committed by someone else. They may be prepared to provide advise or support if they have had comparable experiences.
It is critical to focus on the suggestions mentioned above while navigating difficult times. One more thing I want to emphasize is the need of prayer in all situations; prayer creates room for positive affirmation, which creates room for faith, and we develop into what we think about ourselves.
Thank you for reading my blog; have a fun-filled day.