A woman, or a man falls in love because of how they make him feel, because of the care, the attention, the respect. And she falls out of love for the same reason, it's because she or he feels ignored, hurt or undervalued.
That's why a man doesn't lose a woman, or vice versa because of someone else... They lose him or her because they didn't know how to take care of the relationship. Because in reality, a man or a woman does not compete with anyone but with their own actions, and this of what I write applies to both as well.
A woman or a man when they fall in love are like a little plant if you do not commit to take care of it, it does not grow, nor does it bloom🤔🧐.
When you love someone you protect him, treat him well, take care of him, understand him and look for the tendency to softness and tenderness. In the same way, if you feel that they only treat you well, when you are smiling, without complaints, without problems, then it's REALLY NOT there.
Why, do I put it like that? Without a doubt, from my experience with my husband, when love is really love it stays to accompany you in your storms and DOES NOT run away, on a tangent, that is, on the left. Because it is a committed love that does not run away through your cracks, it is the person who sits with you on the floor and waits for you until you get back up. It is the partner who accompanies you in the process of healing the wounds.
To love yourself is to treat yourself that way. Do not fight against yourself, seek to solve your problems but without attacking yourself, without belittling the human being you are, without being your own worst enemy. Look for your own version of yourself but without that implying a total hatred towards that which you think is wrong with you.
Many people feel lost when they are abandoned, thinking that what really destroys them is not separation, abandonment, but NOT valuing themselves with or without a partner. It is suffering from a lost self-esteem.
Be loving to you. Don't hate yourself. The one who does NOT take care of you is because he does not love you...more clear than that impossible!
That is, gold does not stop being gold because someone prefers the shine of plastic. When one sees each other again, to love each other, that's when we start to meet again and believe in ourselves. Rebuilding ourselves is a process that will always be worth all the effort.
The voice you choose to listen to can change the direction of your life. Intimacy is only possible only if we show our vulnerability because our true commitment beyond love is consideration, it is your ability to think about the needs, emotions and experiences of the other, acting with empathy, care and respect for him or her... I share with you my mantra beyond the zero pulse "I see you, I value you, and I care about your well-being".
Surround yourself with those who drive you, not those who limit you. Because you deserve to go as far as you dare to dream ✨
Nice day ,
Janitze 🦋
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