Filthy envy?...

Do not rush to please, and satisfy everyone...

Sometimes we rush to please when some conflict happens. Without allowing the necessary maturation time.

We may want to avoid discomfort, or get back to normal. But when something has upset us we can allow ourselves to feel it and express it. Above all, to understand that it is normal that if a problem occurs with someone, the way we relate to each other temporarily changes.

Just because we get upset doesn't mean the change will be permanent. Sometimes, it is a form of limit and if everything goes on as if nothing, the other would not understand.

I don't mean that you don't rejoice, nor are we capable of satisfying others, just that we don't force ourselves to please if it's not what we feel, or if the other hasn't done anything to repair the bond. People who choose to live in drama need intensity to feel alive.

If there is no problem, he invents it, if there is, he enlarges it and if by accident it is solved, he reopens it or opens another moment to be in continuous conflict...

What do they do specifically?

It's people who love to live in the constant Victimization, in the triangulation that (they talk about you, behind your back with others, but not with you). Do you know why? Because product of their great emotional ambiguity: today they are our allies, and tomorrow they are hypocrites and judges of our life and proceed.

To grow up is to stop spying on the other and take charge of oneself. And it is that even in the gaze you can feel when someone envies us, it is a destructive feeling, by the way.

Without entering into spaces that do not correspond to me, envy, judgment, criticism, admiration and fascination absolutely all share "desire" as a common root.

Although the difference is not in what is desired, it is in how that desire is processed internally.

What do you think?

It is always good to take fascination as an engine to move forward. In my opinion, "healthy envy" is nothing more than admiration and fascination seen from another perspective, the achievement of others. I am one of those who thinks that if we have, we feel healthy envy, we are pure and sincere beings.

The envious person does not want our things, he does not want us to have no house, car, job, partner, what he wants is to feel less every time he looks at us. *Envy is born when the other only reveals his shortcomings.

We all have a very bad reputation in the mouth of a mediocre and an envious one.

It is also true that between envy, complacency and admiration there is a very fine line in what is healthy and what is destructive. At least when they criticize me or you say things that seem negative to me, it turned them into poetry, or I change them for an afternoon with good weather and a good 🍷.

Life is too short to look at the needs of others.

Janitze 🦋