Forget about that! ...

If you are thinking that you were unfaithful and the other person is going to forgive you. That, the clean slate. That, it's not going to happen.
Not everything they taught you about love is true.

Many phrases about love are not as they told us. Is love really forever?

Sometimes we forget and think that love endures everything and endures everything, without remembering that perhaps nothing is as fragile as love.

Love is sustained on the basis of details and if there is something that is lost in time it is these gestures.

And then we don't understand what happened to the relationship…

Is there a phrase that you think was a lie about love? I think it would be a question ❓ for example: How to end your peace of mind and your dignity? Haha, sneak up on your ex-partner.

Check their networks. See who she's dating, what she's doing and where she's going... I assure you that yes, it works!.

Don't pretend that your failures in a relationship are always forgiven. We can all fail, but it is our duty to make amends or, at least, not repeat the mistake. For example: infidelity is a wound that hurts and does not heal absolutely.

You know what? Forgiving an infidelity goes through several processes ranging from the loss and restoration of trust, to dealing with feelings as strong as the.hatred, anger, love and self-esteem.

Not everyone forgives infidelity, and we have to have that.present, and not only that, but many times it is forgiven quickly and then we don't know how??? Deal with the other feelings, and end up regretting having forgiven. It is essential to understand that the process of forgiving an infidelity does not happen by starting from scratch, but by starting with spent tools and elapsed time.

It is also true that it is very difficult to go through this trance easily and quickly. It is impossible, and trying to do it is a major mistake. So we have to take the necessary time to go through this process, it is a grief that we must allow to feel it.

I think that we should not rush into the process of forgiveness, I think it is the best way to know if we are capable of doing it or not, and then, if we forgive, we must understand that it is never a clean slate, so that forgiveness does not become an insufferable drama.

I often see couples who stay together “because they have to". Not because love became commitment and they live from a commitment that doesn't hurt. Without a doubt, there are people who believe that staying with someone is a sacrifice, to endure, to resist the unbearable. But the truth is, that's not love, much less commitment. It is an emotional prison.

Look, when love matures, it does not scream, it does not demand, it does not hurt, I speak it from my experience 48 years of life as a couple.

It becomes something deeper: a conscious decision to be. To be with the other because you want to, not because he plays. Because you choose, not because you must. That's what happens when love turns into commitment. And that commitment doesn't hurt.

Do you realize that? If you are staying after an infidelity out of habit, out of fear, out of pity, that is not commitment, it is a chain that, in the end, ends up suffocating you.

Janitze 💔