Relentless self-criticism, being a "perfect" mom!?...

I have assumed motherhood with a sense of transcendence, with honesty, with wisdom, limits and compassion, with love and tenderness and that I assure you leads us towards self-knowledge.

Being a mother is sometimes painful, sometimes kind, sometimes satisfying, sometimes hard, sometimes sublime, sometimes very earthly.

Motherhood is a journey into the depths of our being, a sacred and transformative process, because our actions, decisions, words and gestures leave deep traces in the lives of other helpless, dependent beings, who are the seeds of the future.

A mother who conditions love, who tells us that you have to be “good”, “perfect” or “useful” to deserve to be loved. That's why, in adulthood, we exhaust ourselves trying to win the affection that perhaps, they never gave unconditionally.

Many times that constant feeling of “I'm not enough” is born from the fact that your mom never made you feel that you were.And that emptiness turns into relentless self-criticism in adulthood.

Thank you motherhood, for teaching me more than I expected.The balance between understanding, flexibility vs. the requirement, the norm... it's dynamic, it's not a one-day thing, it's an everyday thing.

Being a mom is an adventure!... Although challenging, it is full of emotions and learning. Because being a mother is a whole transformation.

I confess that being a mother limits us, reactivates us we call ourselves from guilt, exhaustion or frustration, But this is not forever, when our children are small we must fill ourselves with patience and as they grow up we must learn to do things that nourish us because self-care is not a luxury, it is only our responsibility. This part of parenting is often forgotten, our children do not need a perfect mother, they need a healthy, emotionally stable, complete and authentic mom.

Balance, flexibility, understanding when we are raising, is not a matter of one day, it is of every day. You have to learn to deal with personal, family and cultural ideals in the process of becoming a mother...

We are all repairing ourselves while raising our children, even when we are the ones who have pets, we are also parents in some way.

Our children teach us more than we imagine.To educate is to form human beings who do not need to trample on others to feel important. We as a mother and father cannot continue to be indifferent against something that is extinguishing the life of our children, while some laugh, others cry.

Take care of yourself so you can take care.

We learn to be mothers, while our children learn to live. Our children come into the world, and they come to live their own stories. Our task as mothers is to guide and accompany... If you don't have children yet, do you think you will be a good mother?

Thanks for reading me. Janitze 🦋