What fierce competition our societies have for the need for valuation, which mercantilists and consumerists take advantage of very well... living to see, nothing surprises anymore.
We were taught that helping is always the right thing to do, but helping is not carrying everything.
Sometimes helping is also letting the other person take responsibility. It's about setting limits, and that's not being selfish; it's respecting yourself. And also allow others to learn from their own consequences, if they screw up your life a lot.
The right people don't leave because you set boundaries. They stay and learn to respect you. In this sense, and I say this from my own experience, life is going to keep making things difficult for us: traffic, unfair bosses, exams, health problems, bad news, fights, owners. What makes the difference is not that nothing difficult happens to us, that's impossible, but how we respond when that happens to us.
Self-regulation is exactly that: learning to respond instead of reacting.
And when we do it right, our life doesn't become perfect... but it becomes much more manageable, calm and successful. We all need others, let's not punish vulnerability, nor overvalue the self-sufficiency. In difficult times, may we be able to treat each other with tenderness, kindness, in addition to having patience.
No one is designed to carry everything silently. Because now you have a baseline and from here on you can improve a lot, but that time is a great result for everything that comes if you are patient and constant.
A tip: Ignore external noise as much as possible. We don't need to have all the answers, if we start being a little more coherent and compassionate, we are already moving forward more than we think.
In the same way, step by step, decision by decision, as long as they are consistent our best version is built, that's why I wish you to stay with this reflection and that's how emotional freedom is built, and in that way we transform every challenge into virtue.
When someone of the current generation arrives feeling small in front of everything that is happening outside, starting from their own history, it is that the problem goes beyond the external world...
It's almost always that you're still not clear about who you are and what you're worth, since that confusion everything feels bigger and heavier than it really is, because without realizing it, you're trying to stand up with a battered self-esteem.
On the other hand, when you build an identity, when you know who you are and where you stand from, every decision you make, every time you choose to treat yourself well and treat those close to you well, when you move forward even if the panorama is not clear, that is already part of your personal success.
In the end we don't need to change the whole world, we need to change our own, and when we do that, the effect reaches further than we imagine.
Thanks for reading me. Janitze 🦋
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