Uh-huh... And how is this digested? ...

When our self-love, the one that was sold to us that I consider incomplete, is like a wall that we are building around the first me is a kind of defense that comes as a response to pain, I speak death that hurts us and we have not been able to process there in the past. And that's when we ask ourselves and what the fuck do I do with all this that overwhelms me?

When we have been losing ourselves in each other for too long, it is normal that we want to close ourselves off and it is logical that after we have not felt used, abused, ignored or displaced and now we want to establish "distance" limits.

Of course, we must be careful because we should not confuse protection with evolution, because isolating ourselves can give us a feeling of control, but it can also become an elegant way of never exposing ourselves again.

Do you know why I write overvest? Because real self-love does not lock us up to disconnect us, it filters us to allow us to interact in the world without disappearing, it does not force us to choose solitude without disappearing, nor does it force us to choose solitude so as not to suffer, it teaches us to relate without betraying ourselves, and that's the key.

At the end of the day, the way out of the wall is to reconnect with enough maturity and solidity to love without losing ourselves, to give without emptying ourselves, to stay without annulling ourselves because true self-love does not separate us from the world, on the contrary, it allows us to be in it without ceasing to be ourselves.

Therefore, if our version of self-love leaves us alone, distrustful, and permanently defensive, we definitely do not love each other we are just existing in survival mode, and it is good to be clear that surviving is not living.

I know they taught us to stay away from everything that fucks us up. But healing is not running away. It is often misunderstood what it means to know and accept ourselves from self-love. I am one of the people who thinks that self-esteem gives us in the face of bad relationships. The solitude chosen from consciousness works for many, and those who accept us with the ugly, dark, and with the beautiful stay by our side.

Self-love does not build walls, it builds foundations. It's not distance, it's balance. When we support ourselves, and ano we love from the fear of losing, yes or from the freedom to choose.

And that's when love stops hurting...and that's when it starts to add up. Self-love takes a lot to build but nothing is impossible, sometimes he asked me how afraid we feel to lose if nothing belongs to us and we are not going to take anything.

I am always open to receive, but always setting limits, otherwise many people do what they want with you and don't let themselves be fucked. The wise man sees evil and turns away... It is better to be apart in peace, healthy and with vital energy than to have close to those who consume you and make you sick. We have to know how to choose the battles as well as the people we want close.

I don't know, he tries to isolate himself, but to desist from being the repository of other people's emotional garbage.

Janitze.🌷