We live in the era of who is the provider?

Women in the past had to wait for that provider man to magically appear or that his parents will come for him, because the woman was invalidated to decide her future. In fact, from the time of our mothers the feminist movement began (let's not confuse it with the current toxic feminism, please!).

Today, the woman has proven that she can decide her fate, but let's not back down, waiting for the provider and protective man to appear. Do you know why? Simple, because we women also have to give signs of life to be able to make decisions when he (man) needs us.

In a relationship there must be a balance because the reality of the provider man has changed because not only the economy is different, job opportunities have also changed. The real responsibility of the couple comes as a life project together as a team. If, for example, the woman is the CEO of an international company and the husband or partner has a job as a university professor or is a carpenter, in this scenario... who defines which is the provider? Society, for what will they say? Or how do they complement each other lovingly? With the partner or family in the face of economic, health and mental well-being challenges.

I believe that one should be happy being the way he is, not measure everything with the rules of society. The important thing is to speak clearly and have good communication. Because if we keep labeling everything as sexist, many women are going to stay to dress saints, my maternal grandmother would say. Fewer labels and more people willing to say what they want and how they want it without trying to annul the couple or annul themselves.

Unfortunately, at the opposite ends, many girls want a traditional man, but they are not traditional women. Then feminine modernity collides with masculine reality, resulting in everyone pulling to their side without concessions.
It's that the situation goes beyond chivalry, independence, and who pays the bill, the issue is that we continue to expect the other to act according to expectations that are never put on the table. In the end we see that many relationships do not break up for lack of love, it breaks up for lack of that uncomfortable conversation that no one wanted to start, the one that forces you to say without labels that you expect, of this? Because as long as that question is not asked, there is no traditional role or Moderna mentality that reaches.

It really is absurd that there is still rivalry between men and women, because they are stuck to traditional gender roles, I think that both men and women should be attentive to the details. It's about talking and having clear agreements. Conscious love, without labels or prejudices, leads us to grow and live as far as possible from the chaos within the relationship. It is about making an agreement of reciprocity, and freedom to be. From there to unite and commit ourselves from the agreement and reciprocity. Good love sets us free.

Thanks for reading me. Janitze 🦋