I think we as humans are independent in nature, or we like to be independent, and we believe that being independent grants us freedom to make our own choices. However, even though it might seem that way, freedom comes at a cost because you'll have to face the music outright and be responsible for every little thing that goes wrong or right.

For instance, most people want to not work for anyone and try to be their own boss because they don't like being ordered around or for any other excuse that may exist. Without knowing it, it's harder to be the boss because you don't know what sticks until you press all the buttons, which, of course, is a lot of work.

Most young adults think their parents had done them bad or good, which is all in the past, and some failing to see that now they are free to make the choice and(or to) be transformed into a better human than their parents. But still yet it seems like we keep moving in circles living thru the lens of our past traumas and then blaming everyone. >But ourselves?

No- pulling out the victim card when we should have just do what we can right now.