Hello, my lovely friends! Today, I have a traditional Chinese story to share about family and ancestors who have passed away. Before, I didn't know much about Chinese culture until I became part of my husband's family, who are of pure Chinese descent.
I gradually studied and learned about this from my mother-in-law while she was still alive, but at the time I didn't pay much attention because I thought nothing bad would happen to our family, which was a huge negligence. Even if I could go back and change it, I couldn't. After my mother-in-law passed away, one thing I've been studying on my own is how to perform merit-making ceremonies for deceased ancestors. For example, the activities to do after my mother-in-law's passing include making merit for her, and there are specific steps to follow. For instance, when she passes away, we perform religious ceremonies that are new and different from what I've seen on TV. Besides burying her remains in the feng shui of the house we bought as her final resting place, we have to offer food to her every two months, just like when she was alive. After that, a spiritual advisor will perform a ceremony for her. Then, we will have merit-making ceremonies on the 7th, 30th, 100th, 1st, and 3rd days after her passing, during which we are not allowed to wear brightly colored clothing for three years. In Thailand, this would be done approximately every 100 days, or three months. Importantly, during festivals like Chinese New Year, we also prepare food to offer to our ancestors....
Today, we, the descendants, gathered together to bring food to pay respects to our ancestors and to share a meal. I really admire the unity within my family. No matter the occasion, everyone can arrange to come together. And after we've gathered and everything is done, we disperse to go back to our respective duties.
My nephew 😁😁 The person I had raised since I born two months ago. Now he going to live with he mother. when he be back soon. When we meet, we'll hug each other. he It's close to me like this.
After everyone had gone their separate ways... my sister had to follow her husband back to his hometown in another province, which was about a 3-4 hour drive away. After everyone had left, my husband and I went out in the evening to eat fried dough sticks with sweet red bean paste, which was incredibly delicious. It was a great way to relax. Staying home and seeing the same old places makes me miss the person who's gone. Later that evening, we all gathered together quietly as a family – father, mother, and children.
My father-in-law stayed downstairs alone in his room. I understand how someone who's been with their wife for so long feels when she's gone forever. I just pray in my heart that everything will pass this month and return to normal soon...Thank you for your support. See you again in the next article. Goodbye.
