I am a person in that situation. I haven't seen my child in 2 months now and still don't know where they are. As I wrote about today, the accusations that Lily's mom is putting out against me are escalating. Nothing of child abuse yet, but it wouldn't surprise me. And a friend of mine got hit by that, too. Courts here are incredibly slow and have turned to the other extreme, believing the woman first instance, no matter what. Which I honestly hope has saved many lives, because the opposite was many times deadly here.

So it's not black & white. It's a very complicated situation to be in. I do see the judgement in people's faces right away when the topic comes up, especially those who don't know me. And it's impossible to prove a negative, so I have to use the proof I have of her blackmailing and psychological abuse against me. It will be ugly, and I really wouldn't have wanted that. Especially for Lily.

Unfortunately, most couples go for vengeance. Not for balance. Not to right, but to do the same. I really hope that I will find a way that puts Lily's wellbeing in the focus, not mine nor the mother's. Because that's what it's really about. And many people loose focus off that in all their emotions.