I am a person in that situation. I haven't seen my child in 2 months now and still don't know where they are. As I wrote about today, the accusations that Lily's mom is putting out against me are escalating. Nothing of child abuse yet, but it wouldn't surprise me. And a friend of mine got hit by that, too. Courts here are incredibly slow and have turned to the other extreme, believing the woman first instance, no matter what. Which I honestly hope has saved many lives, because the opposite was many times deadly here.
So it's not black & white. It's a very complicated situation to be in. I do see the judgement in people's faces right away when the topic comes up, especially those who don't know me. And it's impossible to prove a negative, so I have to use the proof I have of her blackmailing and psychological abuse against me. It will be ugly, and I really wouldn't have wanted that. Especially for Lily.
Unfortunately, most couples go for vengeance. Not for balance. Not to right, but to do the same. I really hope that I will find a way that puts Lily's wellbeing in the focus, not mine nor the mother's. Because that's what it's really about. And many people loose focus off that in all their emotions.
RE: Mother flees with 4-year-old daughter: “I will say you are a pedophile”. Convicted of abduction and slander