Hi Hivians! I'm on a mission to bring more beauty, boobs and personal dev to Hive.
I work with J-Ryze, The Teacher Of Rebels...aka The Self-Help Eminem aka @Ryzeonline
And we spend our time helping people. We help rebels who are crushing business and life...we help them level up because we know everyone can Ryze.
Everyone and especially me. I'm still learning so much daily from J.
I started a list about a few things that I have been transforming in my life lately. You can see the post here
I'm doing separate posts on each of the topics on my list and today's topic is: Nothing is 'important' - I choose my priorities.
This topic was weird to me in the beginning. I realized that I was saying things are "important" to me like 25 times a day.
But J taught me that when we tell ourselves something is "important" we automatically put a bunch of pressure on ourselves.
Once we put pressure onto this "important" thing then it starts to feel negative for us...
"Omg what if I can't do it?" "If I don't do it xyz is going to happen and everyone is going to hate me" "If I don't win then everyone will think I suck and I can't do this" and on and on and on...
Do you know what happens to us when we are focused on all that negative crap?
It comes true.
We end up failing and our self-esteem plummets because we were "right all along".
Then that tells us that anything we label "important" is hard and we can't do it. So that when we do do the thing we feel is sooooo "important" our performance sucks.
We've been telling ourselves we can't do it so much that we can't get past it and our performance follows that negativity.
But when we were children nothing was important to us and we did whatever we wanted to do.
When we were learning to walk, we didn't fall down and lay on the ground crying about how important it was for us to learn and it's soooooo hard!
When we were children and we fell, we got up and we kept going. And walking, talking, biking, playing, learning...none of it was "important" to us. It was just stuff we wanted to do, we didn't stress out about it, we just did it and we did it well.
And if we didn't do it well, we shrugged it off and kept trying until we did do it well!
So how can you stop making things "important" and pick the things you want to focus on?
Make the decision.
It is quite simple. Anyone can decide to stop focusing on "important" things and focus on things they love, that feel good, and make them happy.
I've learned to do it. And I'm not anyone special. If I can do it then so can you.
Just flip the switch and decide that you've had enough "important" things in your life and you will focus on things that you love. Things that feel good to you.
When you do that you will start to feel positive about things you want. You will execute them so much better, and you will be happy.
And if you want to know more about this and want some help with this or have some questions or want to challenge me with..."but what about my kids? What about my job?" I'm happy to answer those and more in the comments.
Or maybe you get it and you make things that are easy, fun, and you love, "important". If so please share that with me in the comments too.
~Love, Cyn
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