I had another cat last year, he was so badly behaved, and he hated everyone in the house. I took it from the streets and I tried to offer the best that I had, but it broke my heart whenever I tried to pet him or play with him he was violent. We kept it for three months, but give it to someone who had more money and more patience, someone older than me, with more experience and more lonely than me, that perhaps needed him. We kept messaging the new owner and he sent us pictures with the cat that we gave him. He told us that yes, the cat was agitated, but he got used to the new owner more than he got used with us. The one that I have one is not that violent, and perhaps it depends solely on the cat's personality and just a little bit on the owner. So, I think you are right.
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