Gender Reveal: Is A Boy! How To Deal with Gender Disappointment || Mom Life

i already talked about this a little on my previous post 5 Things: I Wish I Would Have Known about Being Pregnant but here i will go a little bit further on my feelings finding out the sex of my baby...

The moment I found out I was pregnant, the anxiety that came with wanting to know the sex of the baby was high, I mean I think is the same with all moms, even if you don’t really care what sex it is and all that matters is that he/she comes out healthy, you want to know!!! And yes, I know there are some people that choose not to know until is birth day and I seriously don’t know how they can live their lives lol.

On my 3rd Monthly doctor’s appointment to check out the baby growing inside of me, I was far along enough that it was possible to see what sex he/she was, I was nervous tho since sometimes the babies get in such a bad position is almost impossible to tell the sex, and you have to wait until they move around for next month. Once I got to my appointment my doctor was all “Ok so, lets check how healthy is this baby” doing all the measurements and checking that all the beats and functions were fine, I was so impatient to know!!! I needed to KNOW!!! I just cant deal with this kind of uncertainty lol, I haven't even bought anything for the baby yet, since I didn’t wanted to buy neutral colors.

Then it was time…

The doctor finally did all the checks and everything was fine so, he proceed to try and make the baby move since in the position he was it was difficult to see the sex, I almost yell at the doctor cause even tho it was not causing me pain at all, he was doing this little giving this little bumps to the belly and OMG the Lion Mom in me woke up, I was so mad he would “hit my baby” (ok yes I know he was not hitting him but still lol) I told him not to do that cause I didn’t want for the baby to feel anything bad, but as soon as I told him that the baby move and there it was…

Is a Boy!

And nope there was not doubt about it… like you know when sometimes the doctors said is a boy and turns out is a girl or the other way around? Well…

Yeah, that picture made it pretty clear it was a boy…

The disappointment…

I have never been a omg I want babies kind of girl, so I didn’t had any names pick or had anything really planned, but as told previously on another post, from the moment I got pregnant I knew I wanted a girl. Why? You may wonder, well stupid reasons really I wanted a girl cause to me it would look cuter with his dad holding her, also I though my BF would be more mellow with a girl than a boy, not to mention well I'm a girl and even tho I do have a few brothers is not like I grow up with them so, I didn’t really know how to raise one.

The moment the doctor said well is a Boy the feeling of disappointment kick in, and with that the feeling bad for feeling disappointed too, I mean it was not like I didn’t like the child or loved him but… I not going to lie I was so sad, mad and a lot of other feelings combine. I think adding to the fact I was a little mad at his dad at that moment so the fact that he was getting what he wanted and not me made me even madder lol.

Disappointed so, I must not love my child…

NO! I never felt any less love for him, the feeling of disappointment weren't even aim at him at all, it was more at the situation I was in, to my luck, I don’t know how to explain it better, but I knew I loved him beyond any love I have ever felt before.

So, not dealing with gender disappointment does not mean you don't love your child. No matter what other people tells you.

How did I deal with the feelings?

Well I have to fake it till I make it, when you go around telling people you are not happy with your baby sex, people immediately assume you are a bad mom who doesn't love her child and may even make him gay (yes, some one even suggested that my feelings may make my baby gay xD) I didn’t eve told my boyfriend, I mean I did told him I was a little sad but not the whole extend of it cause I didn’t wanted to make him feel bad either, so there I was already going through this physical change now add to that the whole emotional thing.

It was difficult to buy stuff for the bay without thinking oh but the girl side of the store is more pretty and when it came to the name picking omg hardest thing I have ever done, I didn’t like any boys name, at all, so kind of ended up leaving the dad pick that one himself, until this day I still came think of a good boy name really.

I figure it would pass, I mean like I said I knew I love the kid, so I just needed to sucked it up and once he would be born, I would see how is not bad having a boy.

Then he was born…

And omg I was right! Having a boy IT IS THE BEST!!! I look at him now and think to myself how crazy I was of ever wanting a girl when being a boy mom is such a magical thing.

I loss in so many things boy and I'm still quite unsure on how the whole Teenage boy will work out, but as a toddle and now a preschooler I can say having a boy really is magic. He is so loving and so cute, also he is his dad exact copy (yes I am a copy machine) so seeing the 2 together is the most wonderful sight I can have.

The other day my mom saw me watching him sleep and she told me “You are truly in love with him” and yes I am, I am in love with my child I cant not think on any other being alive that is more perfect than him and I am happy and excited to see what the future holds for him.

So, if you are feeling a little or a lot disappointed on your child gender don’t mind it, it will pass, you will love your child doesn't matter if is a He/She or when they grow old choose to be another thing cause that is how a mom works, she will love her child no matter what.

have you ever feel something like this while expecting a child? do let me know in the comments! or better yet make a post about it on the Motherhood community!

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