Today about love ❤
It would be hard for me to explain this topic in english verbally, so I'll translate this polish vlog here.
The paradigm of love
If you still believe in this paradigm of happiness achieved by falling in love with someone, then you are not looking for love - but for an addictive relationship.
I wrote about it already in article some time ago here.
In it I wrote what love is'nt, so now I'll focus on what is 💖🧡💛💚💙💜❤️
Love that is in You
For generations, we have been passing this myth of love to each other.
That love is to find in someone else, that it depend on someone.
The truth is that You will find it within Yourself.
Just think about it with me:
When you fall in love with someone and you are in a state of love - that someone produces oxytocin (colloquially called "the love hormone") in You, or Your body does it?
Since this is what your body does, it means that the person You fall in love only triggers hormon production in You. It means that untill You will get self-aware of how to trigger it, Your love vibration depend on others.
And what if I told you that you can learn to be in state of love all by Yourself?
To be like in love, but with nobody in particular?
Me and many wonderful people whom I have met in recent months are living proofs of this.
I am in a state of love whenever I want to feel it.
Now, if I tell someone that I love Him/Her, it means that Its very easy for me to achive that state near that person. Love is in me and depend from me.
How can You learn this?
I don't know about You, I know how I learned it
I don't want to teach anyone, I want to talk about my experience in the hope that it will help someone.
My way was to heal my traumas and to shake off my back social pressures and most important learn to think positively.
Well, think about it.
As example I'll assume You still have unpleasent thoughts.
If you want to make someone in love with You, do You say things like to that person;
You are not enough; You disgust me; I despise you; Someone else is better than you; You can't do it; Gross; You're weak. Insert any nasty, heavy thoughts that pop into your head here.
Nobody would fall in love in You if You would talk like that to Her/Him...
You think this thoughts are true, but in fact they are just a perspective.
Deeply devastating perspective, that programs You to become what Your thoughts say...
You will not ignite love for Yourself still having those old patterns.
In fact these thoughts are not Yours, no one was born with criticism - it is given by the environments in which we are brought up. Kids dont critisize and talk shit to themselves, that bad patterns are acquiired in childhood.
There is nothing to blame the environment here, because people who raised us in this bad patterns was raised themselves in even worse conditiions...
Many generations of people passing on of the illusion that you are not enough.
You are enough!
For me, the basis of being an adult is to be able to self-consciously choose how you want to feel
This is one of the many elements of matrix awakening.
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You can help me to build a new earth.
-Monti
| The main reason why I started this blog is to tell my story. |
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| I've grown a lot thru my lifetime and learned things I believe should be taught in primary school, as a human right. |
| Teachings about basic human needs, self-discovery, search for passion, cooperation, need of tribe, love, how to grow, healthy lifestyle for both physical and mental health. |
Summary of my previous articles if You missed them:
(I hope some of them will fit Your needs and do some good 🤩)
About psychology
- What is the voice in Your head?;
- How to unleash Your authenticity?;
- Simple trick to learn mediation;
- Depression & herd/Love;
- Why depressed people don't search for help;
- The base of happiness;
- Anxiety, how to cope?;
- Love;
- Positive thinking;
About weight loss / healthy food
- My weight loss 40kg in 6 months - introlude;
- Psychological aspects of gaining weight;
- When sugar and oil is good, and when bad;
Society
Hive in my perspective
Some healthy food propositions
I write every second post in Polish, and every second in English.
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