I was going through a friend's blog when I saw the Abundance. Tribe's Bi-Weekly Question although it is just one day before it ends but the question got me thinking back to my life about the most valuable lesson I have learned in life and I decided to share with us my thought on this.
The question says; What Has Been The Most Valuable Lesson, You Have Learnt In Life?
I always told people that I learnt life the hard way and I am not wrong in saying that because I have been through a lot of shit in life but one of the most outstanding things about these lessons I learn each day is that we should never go back bit keep moving and putting all the lessons we learn each day into practice.
I am aware that as long as we are alive, we would always learn things or lessons from people, incidents, or even the movement of things.
The most valuable lesson I have learned in life is never to depend on anyone. Yeah, we can have friends and family we can trust which to an extent isn't wrong because, without trust, family, friends, employees, and employers can not stay but don't depend on anyone because it is not the best for anyone.
A little story I would love to share with us.
My Story
No one loves to see his or her loved ones being snatched away by the cold hands of death but the truth is when that time comes, that is when we realize who we call friends and family.
My mom was a housewife and by that time saw no reason to get a job or start up a business of her own, we'll my dad was the sole head of the home and they were both comfortable with it.
She had nothing doing, she looked up to my dad who was her husband for money when she was in need and we all the kids looked up to our father for our needs and he was capable of providing for his kids and family.
After the demise of my dad, everything came crumbling, and my mom was left with nothing because my uncles all came to get the properties their late brother who was my dad, and her husband had, saying they were his brothers and should be the to inherit these properties.
Not only did they get his property but they also decided not to contribute money for the burial of my dad. And my mom had no option other than to begin to lend money from her friends to commence dad's burial to return after the burial.
Things became so difficult that we could not feed up to two square meals a day not only was it difficult to eat but it was difficult for us to continue our education in the private school we were all enrolled in by my dad so we all dropped out while our mates went to school.
It was difficult for mom to take care of us three and so I had to go and stay with my maternal uncle where I was enrolled in a public school.
It was hard for my mom after my dad's death and that was because she depended solely on him and never saw reasons to be an independent woman even though her husband was buoyant enough to take care of her and his kids.
When I saw the pains, struggles, and tears she cried and went through just because she had been dependent on her husband while he was alive, I realized it was of course a lesson to me and the worst thing that can happen to people who depend on people.
Although we should have people we can always ask for help when we need but depending on people is only going to lead on in a tight corner he or she would wish he or she did not come in contact with.
This is just one person we should depend on and that is God because He will never fail us but humans can and will and it is not right to depend on anyone.
Thanks to everyone who took out time to read through my blog, I am grateful for that.