Self-belief is the most important lesson I've learned in my life. Have faith in yourself and your ability. Do whatever you want in life with the confidence that you will attain it to your full capacity. Never mistrust your own abilities. Your prospects of success will be ruined if you have self-doubt. It is your own self-perception that is important. Don't listen to what others have to say about you, brother. Concentrate on your life's major objectives. You will succeed in all of your life goals if you put out your best efforts while being positive.
You will have the freedom to do whatever you want if you are self-sufficient. You will be able to think independently and make decisions.
It's amazing how many people can't make up their minds, or they overthink everything and get paralyzed, metaphorically speaking.
Also, be thankful for what you have. So many people around the world have so little that bits of leftover food would suffice and also learn to "Let it Go,".
I used to be quite concerned about the happenings of the past. I was clinging to the past and missing my lovely present.
Then I came upon this quotation by Claire Bloom: 'You must learn to let go over time.'
This quote has had a significant impact on my recent history. All of my grudges, insults, taunts, rejections, and failures are no longer bothering me. This is only possible because of my capacity to relax and concentrate on the task at hand.
You can't be present in life if you can't let go of poisonous events from your past. They follow you about and prevent you from focusing on the task at hand.
Most of us only think of letting go in terms of the past. However, it also holds true for the future. If unwanted concerns of future failure cause you anxiety, you must let go of those intangible things. Yes, your fears are only in your head.
Most of the time, your concerns are unfounded. So why preserve the negative memories of the past and the unknown future in the present? Allow them to leave and be present in this time. We must learn to accept and let go of life's unavoidable happenings.
When we let go and try to bring our consciousness to this moment, the dots connect.
One of the most essential lessons I've learned in my life is how a father explains himself to his son when the latter inquires about the "Value of his life."
Let me clarify the explanation or illustration that his father gave to his kid so that you can comprehend it better.
" Once upon a time, a young boy inquired of his father, "What is the Value of Life?"
Instead of responding, his father instructed his son to take this rock (which his father possessed) and sell it in the market, and if anyone inquires about the price, simply raise TWO FINGERS and remain silent.
Instead of responding, his father instructed his son to take this rock (which his father possessed) and sell it in the market, and if anyone inquires about the price, simply raise TWO FINGERS and remain silent.
The youngster then walked to the market, when a woman approached him and inquired,
What is the cost of this rock?
I'd like to use it in my garden.
The youngster didn't say anything but raised two fingers, and the mother said, "2 dollars?" I'll take it.
The youngster remained silent and went to his father, saying, "There is someone who wants to buy this rock for $2."
The father then added, "Son, I want you to take this rock to the museum and raise two fingers if anyone asks for the price."
The son then went to the precious stone shop and told the proprietor about it. The proprietor inquired, "Where did you get this stone?" It's one among the world's most valuable stones...
I had to have it; how much will you charge me for it?
The father said, "I'll take it for 200,000 dollars." The boy didn't say anything and put up two fingers.
The child, who had no idea what was going on, hurried home to his father and told him, "Father, there's a man who wants to buy this rock for 200,000 dollars."
Then his father asked, "Son, do you understand the value of your life now?"
The child, who had no idea what was going on, hurried home to his father and told him, "Father, there's a man who wants to buy this rock for 200,000 dollars."
Then his father asked, "Son, do you understand the value of your life now?"
Now comes the best part, which the father speaks to his son.
"You see, it doesn't matter where you're from, where you were born, what colour your skin is, or how much money your family has....
It matters where YOU DECIDE TO PLACE YOURSELF, who you choose to associate with, and how you choose to carry yourself...
You may have spent your entire life believing that you are worth only $2, and you may have had individuals in your life who believe that you are worth only $2... But everyone has a DIAMOND.... within them...
We can choose to be surrounded by individuals who value our worth and perceive the gem within us...
We have the option of putting ourselves on the market or in a precious stone store, and we also have the option of seeing worth in others... , you may assist others in recognizing the diamond within them...
So be careful who you pick to surround yourself with... "...and that can make a huge difference in your life......"
Always keep in mind that we need to be surrounded by the appropriate people so that our positive vibe rises in tandem with theirs.
Always keep in mind that you should chose your surroundings carefully. Your environment has a significant impact on your productivity.
We often refer to people as our best friends, but really best friends are those that always raise us up when we are on the verge of giving up, rather than lifting us up when we don't really need it. As a result, consider your surroundings carefully.
Everyone is gonna hurt you sooner or later!
There will be many instances in life when people including your family members will hurt you. Some to small extent and some will ruin your life too.
It depends on you, who is worth suffering for.
Obviously, if a person from your college tries to put you down, insults or bullies you. You will simply block him/her or even complain to the principal. What if a close friend of yours breaks your trust and shares your secrets with his/her fellow friends? You will keep your point, ask him/her to why he/she did that, you can also pick a fight and then leave. And will never want to talk to the person again. What about your family members? If your parents or guardian’s said something which was disheartening, will you leave them? NO! You will remember all those sacrifices and love they gave you. So, those words (though very harsh and remains in you head for very long) will be of not much value than their love. And you know that they are the one who will be there for you whenever you need them and will truly be happy for your happiness. So, you will never be able to hate them!
You just have to choose people. If they did you more good than doing bad, never loose that relation.
I've seen many people who stay in the relation (be it gf-bf/husband-wife/friends) just because they love that person and they don't want to loose that “very important" person. But, my friend we can't clap with one hand. Also, there's no point in being in a relation where you don't get respect and mental peace. You will eventually have self esteem issues and this may affect you severely.Some of the other few lessons I have learnt in life is that:
-Mistakes happen:Our heart should be big enough (more than our fist size.) to accept the mistakes, forgive them, forget them and move on to enjoy life.
Everything has 2 sides:
Every subject. Every person. Every story. Every opinion. And every coin, has 2 sides. We constantly need to remember this, and we need to make an effort to always see both sides.
Nobody is transparent:
Regardless of how the person comes across, he/she is not like that completely. To really know a person for the good, the bad and the ugly, you need to spend time with them and tune in to your intuition.
Assuming is worst than guessing:
When you "guess" something, you are well aware that you really don't know, and that you are in a grey area which your guess will have its natural implications. But when you "assume", you subconsciously feel that you know, so you are not aware that you are in a grey area, and you're not expecting the natural implications. The solution is, always make sure to "know", never assume!
Own everything:
Some people go through life from a renters perspective. Which means, they don't feel it's their problem. They don't feel they have the ownership to solve it. They don't feel they have the abilities to take full control. Switch that mind set! Own everything. It's your problem. You have the abilities and control to solve it.
You could stretch the space:
People operate very much from an instinctive reactive mode. They let nature run the complete show, and whenever there's a natural stimuli they are in the side seeing how nature responds. The truth is, there's a space between stimuli and response. Your role is to stretch the space there. And there's where your uniqueness is, otherwise your just another piece of nature.
There is nothing as an overnight success:
You have to work hard to gain anything.
And hard work for a period of time with a consistency. If you give up in between then it will not matter how much effort you have done in it till then.
Nobody gives a fuck to your journey. It's all about success. Then maybe they want to hear your success story. But till then no one really cares.
Since childhood, I want to be popular, I have tried to so many things, but didn't get success in anything. Today, when I look back, I realize my mistake. It was lack of consistency. I gave up on everything after trying for a few days.
You start doing exercise and after only a few days you give up because there is no visible change in your body. Here the biggest problem lies. We don't want to wait. Attitude is "Give me instant results or I will not do it"
Remember one thing, Hard work with consistency is key to success.
Do better every day, be a better version of yourself, improve every day, and success will be yours.
You have to make efforts.
Have you seen how much effort a mother puts in bringing a child into the world? It indicates something. It indicates that if just to make an entry somebody had to put so much effort, so imagine the amount of efforts you will have to put in to survive there. Yea, there will be a difference, after sometime, your mother won’t be putting efforts for you. You will have to do it for yourself.
This is what I have learnt, that life is no movie. Things don’t happen on their own. Be it career, relationship, maintaining good health or any other thing. Ceaselessly you have to keep pushing forward and make it happen with your efforts.
You have to have patience.
The irony is... even after putting a lot of efforts, you may not get what you had been wanting. So You have to have patience and keep putting efforts, with an eye on where are you going wrong and how can you improve yourself in every attempt.
One of the biggest fear is fear of others opinion.
Listen to everyone, but do what you find right, there is a possibility that you may go wrong, but at least you will have the satisfaction of following your heart. Having said that have the courage to fail also!
You must enjoy.
Apart from aforementioned things, you don’t have to forget to enjoy. Because if you are waiting for some predefined time to arrive after which you would enjoy....believe me that time will never come. So whatever gaps you get, just do what you drives you crazy.
Do things in a way that you are proud of yourself!
Live a fulfilled life… without regrets and die peacefully!