Perhaps there is after all a barrier in translation. This makes me wonder if I have not misinterpret other things you've said in the past.

I care less where someone is from, their gender, or how old they are. It's as I said about preconceived notions. I feel that if you just listen to what someone is saying and have no other information about them, your biases will be removed and you can just hear what they're saying. Of course, this in itself is a skill. Because it is easy if you're not paying attention to start projecting said biases onto people who are otherwise anonymous to you. It's easy to think, this is a forty-something man, I can tell because of how they speak. But if you can try and leave all judgements at the door, I find that communicating with someone can be much more fruitful when the words take priority over anything else.

Any excitement I might have gained through remaining anonymous would have been overshadowed by a feeling of dishonesty. Anonymity, for me, is better suited when you're talking to someone who you also do not know. When conversing with someone you do, pretending to be someone you're not, or hiding your true identity, seems entirely disloyal.