Another day feeling bad another day stuck in the house after cancelling plans to go out shopping, I woke up with a bad head, probably due to not sleeping and hubby snoring so loud that my head was banging. I was looking forward to going out but my body said NO. When you start to get older you learn to listen to your body and do as it tells you.
My oldest daughter text me today telling me a member of staff lost her temper with my daughter shouting at her whilst she was doing doing her job. This older woman has been casting a lot of trouble for my daughter for no reason, trying to get her into trouble but it's not working as the other members of staff are supporting my daughter.
I was very proud of my daughter as she didn't retaliate my daughter has her own problems ADHD - Attention deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. ODD - Oppositional Defiance Disorder and Aspergers. This woman really didn't know what my daughter is capable of, usually my daughter would think after the fact she would have leaped on her. My daughter Jessica was diagnosed when she was 5, she is now 29. We have had a lot of downs with the odd up when raising her thallium as she has got older she has learned techniques to help her through the bad times.
Jessica was my first child, I didn't have a clue about babies never mind a baby with a problem. We knew there was something wrong by the time she was 5 months. She was different from other babies her age, wide eyes, alert all the time, barely slept and needing attention all the time. When she started Nursery at 3 we were asked back constantly to talk to the nursery teachers about what she had done in class. Its then when we asked to be referred to a child psychologist. I searched online for information, joined every online class I could to find anything that helped, I printed out sheets of information for every school teacher she ended up with, I did it all. She didn't have a normal childhood due to her problems. She couldn't go to friends house incase she ate the wrong food, foods that has Es, Preservatives abs additives. It got to the point letting her go to her friends house was easier than the fits of anger she had when she couldn't go, she would return home super hyperactive but making her the odd one out caused its own problems.
We turned to medication that gave her her love back as when she was in the tablets she was calm, we didn't give her medication on weekend or hosts so she could be herself. Me and hubby were permanently shattered, I did what I could to let him sleep as he had work but if Jessica wanted your attention she would go all night to get it.
I often sit back and think about what we went through, the teachers, headmasters, Doctors etc I had to fight to get her some help. Me abs hubby stuck together, there was a lot of families that split due to the stress. Some people wanted to blame the parents, they soon changed there muns when they met my second child, she was calm, quiet and very polite, she did what she was told. There was a massive difference between them both.
W3 have gone through so much with her talking to her tidy made me super proud of her, she stood her ground but kept calm, she didn't hurt anyone or even swear, now that is massive to us as every other word is usually a swear word. She has grown so much.
This post hopefully helps someone who is going through what we went through, there is an end just stuck with your boundaries and guidelines, don't let one bad thing ruin it and don't focus on the small plus praise whenever you can. If I got through it so will you.
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