Can We Learn to Un-Hate?!!
It was one of the most changing days of my life. The weather was so nice to the point that I did not want to go back home and just enjoy the life. As I was getting to the café I liked so much to drink my favorite cup of coffee while reading my new book, I came across an old friend of mine who I didn't see for nearly 4 years.
We sat together and talked about our lives, work, family and such things for a long time. My friend then asked me one strange question. He said "can you learn to not hate something or someone? Or is it something that we are born with and we cannot change it?"
I must say, that question made my thoughts go crazy, I looked at him in complete lost and didn't say a word for, maybe 10 mins?! I didn't know what to say, I never thought about this before, and he didn't have the answer as well.
I kept thinking about that question for the next few days and then I came up with what I think an answer to that question.
Hate and Love are not things related to the genes of the human body. You cannot pass the hate or love towards something to your children. For example, if you like/hate to eat some types of food, your children do not necessarily share the same thing. So I figured we were not born with some hate/love towards something or someone, however we learned through life experience to hate/love the things and people.
Several days after that, I wanted to test my thoughts about it and try to like something I hate. I hate to drink tea without sugar, I just can't enjoy the taste of it without sugar. Therefore, I tried to learn to like it, I was training myself to accept the taste of tea without sugar by gradually decreasing the amount of sugar I put in my cup of tea every day. It took me 10 days to reach to the point of removing all the sugar from my cup of tea, still the taste was not good at all, but I was able to finish my cup. Another 10 days with no sugar, now I reached to the point of accepting to drink tea without sugar, I wasn’t enjoying it as much as I did when it was with sugar but it was nice. After Ten more days, I loved my tea without sugar and I enjoyed it very much. Right now, I can't drink the tea with sugar, I enjoy it without sugar much more.
With this I learned that I can reprogram myself to hate/love whatever I want within one month only.
I don't have any scientific proof for this but I feel it is very true and I already tested it once and working on another test right now, I want to learn not to hate dogs, I want to enjoy walking them, befriending them and playing with them.
Do you believe you can learn to hate/love whatever you want?
Share your thoughts about it.
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