Many of date begin on dating sights. Most profiles include question about marriage, children, etc. One question you can use is: "do you believe in love at first sight?". It seems a harmless question but it revieals important information. Is your prospect a realist or idealist. Another caution to consider, especially if you have money, is that some tell you what they think you want to hear. You must remember that all relationship's are investments. Some pay, some cost. It's your decision when to call it quits. Having an open eye to this can direct you to healthy relationships. I have found that people who live in reality are easier to relate with. I can speak honestly with them, find their expectations of me and negotiate weather or not I can meet those demands. The opposite applies as well. Life is short, too short to waste is distructive endeavors. Time lost can never be recouped. Sounds cold I know but saying no, especially to yourself is freeing.