Get Out Of Your Own Way - Ep 199

So many times we struggle with getting things done because we are in our own way. We become the biggest obstacle we face. We face thoughts and inactions because of those thoughts. Why do we get in our own way?

How do we overcome the excuses we make in our life?

In this episode, I share my recent experience at a hippie event in Oklahoma, where I had the chance to meet interesting people and try out some healthy vegan options. I even participated in a unique activity called sound bathing, which turned out to be an eye-opening and fascinating experience. This event reminded me and my listeners about the importance of not allowing obstacles and excuses to stand in the way of our dreams and desires. Excuses can be the biggest barriers to our success, whether it's in our personal lives or in achieving our goals. It's time to let go of those excuses, overcome obstacles, and start taking action toward the life we truly want. Moving forward, I talk about the benefits of coaching and encourage listeners to sign up for a coaching event.

Coaching can help individuals overcome self-imposed limitations and address various areas of their lives, such as procrastination, overeating, and building connections with loved ones. I share my personal experience with attending events and trying new activities like getting a massage and wanting to try an ice bath. I emphasize the importance of not allowing excuses and other people's opinions to hinder our goals and dreams.

I share a story of a violin player who gave up his dream due to discouraging advice from someone else, highlighting the pitfalls of seeking validation from others and making excuses for ourselves. It's crucial for us to take responsibility for our own actions and not let fear or external factors hold us back.

I discuss the importance of believing in our own capabilities and setting our minds to achieve what we want. Seeking advice from high-quality individuals who have achieved success is valuable, rather than relying solely on friends who may not have the necessary expertise. Having a clear purpose or "why" is essential in overcoming obstacles and staying motivated. Making a plan and taking action, even if it means trying different approaches and making adjustments along the way, is crucial.

I share my personal goal of helping others through coaching and express a desire to see men succeed in pursuing their dreams, regardless of societal stereotypes and challenges they may face. I encourage listeners to adopt a mindset of continuous learning and growth, starting small and putting in the necessary effort and time to achieve their desired outcomes. Finally, I talk about the journey with Relaxed Male, from a men's magazine to a store, men's wellness blog, and now men's coaching. Running Relaxed Male as a serious business for about two years now, I want to show everyone how amazing life can be and that achieving goals is possible for anyone. Embracing failure as a learning opportunity and celebrating it as a stepping stone to our true purpose is important. I acknowledge that some listeners may have experienced trauma or have PTSD, and while therapy is crucial for baseline functioning, coaching can take them even further.

I invite interested individuals to visit relaxedmel.com/trycoaching and sign up for a Zoom call to explore coaching further. I express my commitment to being there for anyone who joins and being willing to coach for as long as it takes. I encourage listeners to share this message with others who may need to hear it, as together, we can make Relaxed Male a movement and help men become their best selves. In closing, I remind listeners to take care and look forward to reconnecting with them in the next episode.

00:00:27 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Determination as Men
00:00:49 Welcome to the Relaxed Male and Reflection on Recent Event
00:02:00 Unexpected Experience at the Hippie Event
00:06:28 Overcoming Excuses and Taking Action
00:10:43 Excuses and opinions hinder us from reaching our goals
00:12:15 Giving up on dreams due to external discouragement
00:15:11 Know your why and overcome excuses with a plan
00:17:04 Start small, execute daily, and build towards success
00:20:14 Stop low-quality thinking and believe in your own potential
00:22:21 Overcoming Fear of Failure and Using Trauma as Fuel