What kind of "circle" he enters, what kind of person he is. For example, people who like to drink alcohol always have friends with wine and meat; people who like to sing often appear in the song club.
People who are really good often seldom confuse the "circle" and prefer "single independence." In particular, the following four "circles", excellent people, will hardly step into.
The first one: no longer like the sincere "classmate circle".
Some popular classmates’ jingles in the Internet: a table with money, a table with no money; a table for drinking, a table for not drinking; a table for divorce, a table for unmarried... these jingles, no It must be right, but it reflects some of the current situation of the student circle.
When we walked out of the campus and squandered the society, we gradually became tainted with all kinds of bad habits of society. There are many people who have learned to compare each other. There are also many people who want to shoot horses. There are also some people who are hugged by the spirit of alcohol. Some people are connected with the first love, and they have never been here.
A few years ago, I attended a primary school class reunion. I have been very happy for many years and I am very happy with each other. But suddenly I found out that some people who are well-mixed are very self-righteous. When they show off their own, many students who still live in the countryside do not speak. There are other classmates, a swearing word, even with a small three, the scene is very chaotic. Because the event was arranged for two days, the next day, more than 30 students, only a dozen students continued to the next round of activities, and they felt very cold. After the party, WeChat group was also established, but only a few students advertised in it every day, or sent some boring pictures and videos, and greeted each other very little. Last winter, one of my classmates got seriously ill. I wanted to donate money to my classmates. As a result, the poor classmates still donated a lot, and those students who kept saying that they have money did not say anything.
In fact, the students who really play well are just a few, most of them have been slowly alienated, no longer "naive at the same table" so naive. Therefore, excellent people slowly withdraw from the classmates, and even contact them for a long time. Occasionally, you will find that he is working hard, creating a career, and not having the energy to pay attention to what the students are doing.
The second type: "friend circle" without true feelings.
Everyone is living in a circle of friends, but most of them are not happy. I like each other and comment on each other. It feels very lively, but most people have no real feelings. If you send a message of borrowing money, you know that those who like it every day are "not seen."
Others, through the "WeChat circle of friends," make money, not exchange feelings. Often open a circle of friends, can not find a person who can tell the truth, the information is messy, really do not want to read.
Excellent people, slowly withdraw from the "friend circle", their own life, create their own, even if they are helpless, and do not rely on friends. My own mood, I know best, others will not really understand. What's more, you look at your circle of friends every day and like each other, it is a waste of time. With such time, you can study, learn skills, and let yourself really grow up.
In fact, there are also some excellent people who still retain the "friend circle", but his WeChat friends are not many, most of them are friends in life, not "virtual people."
The third type: hypocritical "eat, drink, drink and circle".
Many friends, when they drink and eat meat, they all come. Everyone is not drunk, so lively. But when you are down, you are gone, and you are not answered.
"If people are poor, they will know that they have no friends." How many people, eating, drinking and drinking together, is actually "inflamed and attached", is acting, is vowed to say what to do for you, but after drinking, it is not counted, and no one remembers who.
Excellent people have withdrawn from the "eat, eat, drink and drink", hypocritical and lively, really do not need, but also damage the body, break the law of life, but also cater to the face of others, unnecessary. Besides, the mouth is short and the hand is short. Please ask others to drink, maybe you have to "trouble" you. As a result, you promised, and the trouble is really coming.
Fourth: Look down on your "relative circle."
"The rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor are not asked in the downtown." This sentence also reflects the inner thoughts and practical practices of some relatives. Some relatives, when you are poor, look down on you. If you open the door to borrow money, you have no choice at all. Don't even think about it. Such relatives, although bloody, have been rendered by social reality and become strangers. Maybe still walking around each other, but they are all perfunctory.
Excellent people, even relatives will not go to "trust", if they are rejected again and again, it only hurt their self-confidence. Once so familiar elders, brothers and sisters, but in the end have become snobbery. Especially for some distant relatives, you don't mean to come and go, but when you are rich, others take the initiative to find the door, the folks in the village, so you have to accept them. But in the future, please be smarter and learn to refuse, lest you push yourself to a "difficult dilemma".
Of course, not all circles, have to quit, there are always some "circles" with temperature, will become the power of your life. Everything can't be partial, and you should pay attention to screening.
The above "four kinds of circles" really don't step in, don't waste your time and cater to other people's faces. Do yourself the best, put a limited amount of time, and strive for the ideal; one person, clenching his teeth and holding on, is more exciting in the past.
Author: Yan Ju.
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