This is so sad! I'm a grandmother now, and although our lives (mine, my son's, his girlfriend's, their baby) are far from perfect, we experience a lot of joy and good times. Granted, there are lots of fuck ups, but that's the nature of being human! No child should be labelled an 'accident' ... that is just so wrong. Here you are, contributing on an international community platform .... Philip Larkin was a cynical soul I think, and although I sometimes think it's better to remain single and child free, life puts people in your path who change your outlook along the way. Be open to receive!