The story of a blow to the calf is dismantling the physical, emotional, and mental balance, it is heartbreakingly painful ... ugh and how it hurts, and embarrassing at the same time.
Inexplicable but present (and wow), when I gave it to myself I shouted at the top of my lungs "mother's pussy".
Sometimes we think that just by feeling bad, things will change on their own. As if the pain was enough to spark a transformation.
But no... feeling bad is not the same as being ready to change.
You can feel bad for months, years... and still be in the same place. Because change is not born only from discomfort, but from what you do with it.
It is not the pain that is transformed.
It's the decision you make when you stop ignoring him. I'm telling you this, because I'm telling it to myself too. Not everything that does not hurt is already overcome.
There are things that stop hurting because we push them away but not because they are healed and that's why it's dangerous to leave them adrift, because they come back when you least expect it and throw your life out of whack.
I tell myself this...
I know that no one likes to have a crisis. Because emotional crises are uncomfortable, and above all they tend to catch us by surprise. But it is in the context of a crisis where we are forced to develop new resources that allow us to grow in every way.
They are spaces of opportunity. But in order for them to act in your life you must stop avoiding them.
And no, I don't expect you to “celebrate” them, but I do expect you to stop running away when they show up. Take advantage of it…
Does anyone around here, I mean "I" hate being told "count to 10”? I really don't want to tell anything 🤣🤣🤣🤣 just reply and already, let's move on.
I say this because there are people who feel bad every day... and nothing changes. Because discomfort, by itself, does not transform. It can hurt, it can weigh, it can even get sick... But without awareness, without decision and without action, change does not come.
Feeling bad is a sign, not a solution. For those who enjoy beating themselves on the chest... guilt is not enough. It's not enough to feel bad to change. It's just the first step. What really transforms is what you do with what you feel.
It is a brave act of looking at ourselves alone, naked of everything that served us only to survive, not to live fully.
It will take time, yes, but when it comes to our life, there are no more turns to take. It is a challenge that calls us to be brave. Tell me, what crisis have you ever tried to escape from?
Janitze 🦋
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