If your goal is to live frustraded ...

Then try to like everyone...

It's like being the popular guy or girl in the group and being nice to everyone. To get out of the frustration of disapproval or rejection, you need help, empathy, and to be free of judgments.

We have been led to believe that self-esteem is selfish. And it's not like that. Another thing, obviously, is losing control of the ego, we all have ego, and many get out of hand. Another problem is narcissism. But a person with healthy self-esteem knows how to set healthy boundaries in their relationships.

The person understands that he should not stay where he is hurt, and also feels empathy and respect for others. Do you see the difference?

At some point in my life I lived like this, looking for everyone to like me, everything changed in me, when I decided to be happy regardless of society's opinion.

I would say that we all passed by there, we were taught just that, since childhood. Some, like me, break chains, while others stay there.

Without a doubt, they are learned beliefs that we must leave behind because they take us away from happiness. On the other hand, it also happens to me, and it's strange, but currently almost everyone likes me, but I don't do it on purpose. Let's call charisma, that gift that not everyone has, but one learns to cultivate.

There will always be someone who doesn't like you, doesn't like you, but they are the minimum expression. It is always better to stay where one is accepted, without running over the herd. Without a doubt!

“Belonging” is one of the main evils of today's society.

The one who fits into the pack, also falls out of line. You have to love yourself and not lose yourself... firstly self-love, but you do it for yourself... Who else will do it?

Trying to fit in, to the detriment of what one is, to fit in out of place, and "be approved" by society... look, no. That's not the way it is.

I will always defend the freedom to be oneself.

Be yourself, stay true to who you are, don't put on masks to fit in and much less to be accepted, , by others. Forget about the approval or rejection of others, focus on yourself.

Don't become a lie about yourself.

And keep in mind that there will always be those who accept you and love you as you are, there will always be those who hate you and to whom you are indifferent.

Just try to get everyone to respect and accept you without falling into flattery, or mistreatment, rejection from the pack (social group). Forget about the approval or rejection of others, because there comes a time when manipulation can dissociate you, lose you in many ways. To learn to live with that is to grow up. Has it happened to you that there are people who get upset at so much emotional security and say that one is selfish?

In the meantime, everyone sees the landscape from their perspective...

I invite you to invite me to a coffee.Tell me something, at this point of reflection, do you struggle to be yourself or have you already discovered that superpower of being very popular?... I read you in comments.

Janitze.