Love, in all its aspects...

It is like the heart monitor, yes it is active, there is life, but... no, and it must be actively cared for. When we don't do it, we lose it...To whom? To true love.

When a woman or a man is loved as he should be, they feel safe, seen (visible) and loved, they not only smile, they radiate light, joy, their eyes become twinkling little stars.

The voice softens, the guard of being on the defensive lowers and the energy changes. She moves fully into her femininity or masculinity without effort.

There are people who are afraid of love. And that fear of love goes through various forms, manifests itself in various ways.

One of them, which for me is the main one, is that we shy away from the love they give us. They love us and we don't know how to love back, we don't know how to repay that love, we don't know how to establish a loving relationship.

Another way to express fear of love is when we look for substitutes for love, that is, we find someone who loves us, and we join another person in a relationship that does not work because there is no love.

A third way of expressing fear of love, is when we love and at the same time they love us, we are reciprocated, everything is fine up to there, but from the fear of love we begin to bring conflict and drama to the relationship. And what happens? We spoil the relationship, and then we each take separate paths.

The truth is that when we shy away from love, out of fear, out of fear and even out of panic, we are practically declaring that we need emotional help, to somehow make it flourish.

To all the men who struggle to keep their eyes in place, when they see other women who are NOT their partner, I beg you to reconsider your behavior.

Remember that women are not objects to be looked at with lust, and that there is nothing more attractive than a man who is fully present and committed to the woman he loves and has by his side. Accept your monogamy and show your partner the respect and love they deserve.

Even if there are arguments, differences or angry moments, a stable couple is still a team. We don't always have to agree, but we can choose to respect each other, give each other space and know that, although we are distant today, we are still two people who love each other and who will build the bridge when both are ready.

In my personal experience my partner and I have gone through daily micro duels, because my partner has disappointed me with his mistakes, and I have also been disappointed in myself, throughout these 48 years I have gradually stopped idealizing our relationship, understanding that when we joined we shared the illusion, but gradually our own projections were revealed to us, and we realized that much of what we see in the other is our own.

Yes, I did my marriage insight...And that's when we decide to choose to stay together, to persist despite the imperfections, the mistakes, because we are friends, companions, we feel compassion, and every day we continue choosing to be united until death separates us.

Love brings peace, not pressure. It makes life smoother, not harder.

I confess that every time I look at this photo I melt with love and gratitude.

They are my beloved parents Manuel (dad) with 89 years old and Elsie (mom) with 87 years old are still alive, every day they keep choosing each other, they have 67 years of marriage, they have good health, they keep sleeping in the same bed, holding hands, until God disposes.

Janitze 🌹