It does not come from coffee, success or other people's opinions. Our engine turns on when we are present in our Being. Here I am today and now. When we stop running after validation, we begin to inhabit who we already are.
Nothing is more powerful than that moment when you align with your own truth. There I am sure that there is no need for external validation, nor self-sabotage either.
That is where the true impulse is born that does not exhaust, that does not compete and that does not lie.
Taking advantage of the occasion of this that I write to you I always ask myself this question... What do I do before starting a project? And not to die trying or self-sabotage my purpose.
I really connect with my mission, because I don't work for doing, I do it for purpose. It's so much so that it often makes me lose track of time. So I turn it into an engine to build, NOT to disperse, or throw in the towel.
Become exclusive in this very common world, where everyone follows fashions, dare to mark your style. On tido where the copies abind. Don't be afraid to stand out, or shine brighter.
Being different is not a defect, it is your superpower, because in a sea of equals, being unique is your greatest virtue, it is learning to exchange opinions without taking things personally and respecting the opinion of the other even if you disagree.
The value is in realizing, creating awareness that something is not working well, hopefully in time to not have to hit rock bottom and that it hurts more to take actions to resume.
Many times the map of our most painful failures is perhaps drawn by ourselves, without realizing it, for example when we self-sabotage.
I've realized that a lot of people don't need enemies... because they already have themselves. It sounds loud, but it's real, and you know that I'm not going to disguise the realities with nice words.
Look, self-sabotage is just that: fighting against you, spoiling what could be your happiness, closing the doors on you. I've seen it and lived it a thousand times. At work, in relationships, in life.
People who stumble over the same stone, but not because they don't see the stone, but because they unconsciously need it and walk straight towards it, to trip themselves up.
I have often told here that I was very self-destructive before and even stopped myself out of fear. Fear of rejection, abandonment, criticism.
Even afraid of myself. Because yes, self-sabotage is often that: you don't jump in for fear of what might happen if you really do well.
And of course, fear convinces you that you are not going to be able to, and we end up believing it.
How to free ourselves from that fear that leads us to sabotage ourselves and prevents us from being our best version? I tell you in advance that there are no magic solutions.
With emotional work, in depth and conscientiously. It all starts by identifying the causes of your self-sabotage, its symptoms... and, most importantly, the formulas to get rid of that inner saboteur.
Stop holding yourself back. Stop hiding. Leave the excuses. Stop self-sabotaging. If I could, you can.
Janitze 🦋
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