When we react badly to the behavior of another ...

This reaction is showing us the dark side that we repress, that dark side of ours that we repress so much to think that since childhood, many were taught that being themselves was a risk. That feeling was weak.

That saying what they thought was a problem, and we learned to suppress ourselves.

In fact, do you know that it is difficult? That a child who can be your son, your grandson as is my case and that as a grandmother I have to answer this question... Grandma why is there so much evil in the world? And that we cannot look them in the eye and tell them the truth and tell them that collective evil is the sum of all repressed individual evils, it is difficult to tell them that somehow we are also evil, liars, manipulators, egoists and I stop counting.

And it is also difficult to tell them that collective evil will decrease if each of us works on our own personal evil, but we do not dare because all of us without exception are fearful.

And then we learned how to dress up.

To become what others wanted, even if it broke them inside. They learned to stay quiet... by hanging in there, and they called that "adapting." Nothing further, that is not anadaptation. It's abandonment.

Abandonment of you, of what you are, of what you feel. And that hurts and keeps us living a borrowed life, far from who we really are.

What's the point? Absolutely none. Because you are not in this world to please anyone. You are there to be you, with all that that implies. And to the one who does not like and does not accept you... goodbye, and let him get out of your way.

Why? We have to stop betraying ourselves just to be applauded, accepted. That's NOT living life. To live without fear, or the need for approval to be yourself, is to decide to be a protagonist and not a simple spectator of your own life.

Only those who know their limits can master their pride, their rage, their lust, their pride, their guidance, among other things. They are those capable of descending into their darkness, into the underworld, to know themselves in their totality with the good but even more importantly with the bad.

Only those who have understood and accepted their own limits can decide and order their own acciones.De otherwise, those emotions, passions and defects will dominate your life and there would be no escape.

The worst thing is that most of us think we are great people. We are afraid to look inside ourselves. I wish I dared to know my dark side even more and I still don't know how that could help me.

Why? Because we have to be aware of our own evil. I'm sorry.

With love,

Janitze 🦋