As the saying goes, "Things are gathered together, people are divided into groups." Before everyone interacts with others, they will look at each other's situation and see if they deserve to be associated?
It's not a group of people. It's hard to get together. Even if it's gathered, it's a piece of sand. At a critical time, it will go away. There is no sense of group.
You can only mix in similar circles. It is difficult for other circles to accept you. You don't want to squeeze in yourself. Some circles, you go in, but you don't feel warm, there is no sense of existence, and you will naturally quit quietly.
The best relationship between people is "mutual needs". They can get something from each other and learn something, instead of simply talking and laughing.
You don't live up to expectations, asking anyone is useless, because no one else needs you.
You don't work hard, but it is impossible to get help from others. Be aware that others are willing to help you because you are working hard enough to be touched by your efforts. Even others can realize that helping you, you may become a strong person in the future, and in turn can help him, you have value.
You can look at those embarrassing people, swaying and pity every day, but "more and more difficult to mix", the time of suffering from white eyes is more, the situation of being sympathized is less, and some embarrassing, are driven everywhere, and are also being embarrassed. People are becoming more and more realistic, and people are becoming more and more transparent.
If you want to get help from others, it is not a "collective relationship," but you try to be a good person and let others "stunned."
You may not be able to mix well now, but you have been changing yourself, and life is shining. The more you work, the harder you work, the wider your network. Of course, you still have to remember those who are not looking at you. In the future, you will succeed, be good, and don't help them, because you don't need them.
Being strong and having potential is the "foundy" of being a man.
There is an old saying, "It's easy to add icing on the cake, and it's hard to send charcoal in the snow." If you are poor, relatives and friends will look down on you; if you have money, others will help you. This is the "effect" of strength.
When you have money, you can speak loudly and not afraid of anyone; when you have talent, say what is truth, others will be convinced; when your morality is noble, others will respect you and admire you; when you are high Now, there are more people who need you to do things.
Therefore, having the strength and potential has the basis for your interaction with others and has the qualifications to interact with more people. Because when others interact with you, they can “require each other” and they can get what they want from the other side, and they can let themselves grow up without being “fallen”.
A person who has no confidence in speaking, it is estimated that others will not help you, and will not be optimistic about you. At most, you are cheeky and sullen, rather than the relationship between friends based on equality.
Sociologist Homans said: Any interpersonal relationship is essentially an exchange relationship. Only when such a spiritual and material exchange process between people reaches a reciprocal balance, interpersonal relationships can be harmonious, and interpersonal relationships can only be maintained under the conditions of reciprocal balance.
If others don't get any "benefits" from you, they won't make deep friends with you; if you feel that others don't have any place to use, they won't approach themselves.
When you go to someone else's home, it is estimated that you are asking for something and something. There are also pure exchanges, but not many.
People and people are related to feelings and materials, and generally do not trade at a loss. For example, someone else invites you to dinner. After a while, you have to come back. If you always eat someone else and never pay, it is estimated that no one will ask you to eat later. Others don't need a person who "scams and scams" to attend their party.
People are connected with each other. If you want to keep a personal relationship for a long time, you have to be a valuable person. Even if you are an ordinary person, you can't be too embarrassed, at least it is a motivated person.
Therefore, you should not care too much about the relationship between people, but you should become bigger and stronger. On your own, life will never lose; if you are strong, the circle will naturally expand.
Friends, what do you think is the relationship between people and people?
Author: Yan Ju.
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