It's only hard if you're broken yourself, and instead of doing the much-needed self-work, you cultivate your emotional alignment by seeking them out even more.

The whole point is that you CANNOT fix broken people, because the whole reason why you're in a relationship with them is because both you and them are broken. Do you see what I mean? The reason why you're with them is because both you and him/her are using each other to feed the emotional addiction that you both suffer from. No emotionally healthy person in their right mind would ever start a relationship with a broken person, so you're with them because you are broken yourself. Your whole desire of wanting to help a broken person IS THE PROBLEM.

/Eddie