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When You Open Your Eyes........
and see yourself for who you really are, you realize that you are not what others think of you or how they feel about you. Feelings are a funny thing. Everything you feel, you own it! If you feel others don't like you, turn that inside and see that it may just be a reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you feel others are talking about you, maybe that is another illumination of something you need to heal inside. Everything that you feel is going on outside of yourself, is actually going on within yourself.
The Victim Game
As humans, we need to have a reason for everything that happens. It takes a strong soul to accept responsibility for the things that happen in our own lives. Many times, when we are weak and beaten down, we blame others. They did this to us, and they did that to us. Never once when we are in the "victim" cycle do we look within to see that our fate was the product of our own choices.
I am not at all in disagreement with people being abused. There are hurting souls out there that can only find some kind of temporary release of their pain, by hurting others. However, if we allowed ourselves to be hurt, we have placed ourselves into the victim position. There are many experiences in this lifetime where we will be harmed by another. It's life. It's the game. This is what we came here to overcome.
We, ourselves, have not come this far without harming another. Maybe we raised our voice. Called someone a bad name. Gave hours of silent treatment. Whatever the case, we have put others in the position of victim. All to release something in ourselves to relieve some kind of pain. It's temporary. Our pain only goes as far as we allow it before we decide to actually purge it in a healthy way. The same goes for the other party. Whatever you shot at them in anger, they will eventually purge and heal from that. Hopefully.
The key is to release the victim mentality.
Say This......
I am a product of my own feelings and experiences.
Whatever I feel from others, is something I need to address within myself.
Whatever I feel for myself inside, I will attract outside of myself.
If I love myself, I will attract love.
If I feel like a victim of others, I am merely a victim of my own inattention for my own needs.
How you feel about yourself and the feelings you get from others is a choice that you make yourself. Instead of saying, "so and so is so mean to me. They do x,y,z to hurt me constantly," try saying this, "I choose not to feel negative emotions from so and so. I release any anger, hurt, or pain associated with them. I choose to only feel positive feelings and hold space for them while they heal from whatever is making them lash out."
It's Like Confronting a Bully.........
The darkness within yourself is the biggest bully you will ever meet. If you confront it, you will soon begin to find that others don't make you feel like a victim anymore. Because you choose not to feel all of those dark feelings, but in order to completely get rid of them.....you must purge the bully that is haunting you.
Purging Yourself, Heals Victimhood
Whenever the feelings come up that other mirror in front of you, it is time to sit with them. Don't fight back. Allow them to surface. Don't lash out at others, or at yourself. Sit and feel exactly what you are feeling. It will come to you. Find rituals or methods of bringing things to surface and letting them go.
If someone makes you feel hurt, angry, sad, or down on yourself; think of ways to life yourself back up. It is no one else's responsibility, but your own to heal what hurts inside of you. Thinking you need someone to love you. Thinking you need money. Thinking you need a ton of friends and a filled social calendar. These are all tactics to smooth over things that need purged. All you need is to be happy with you!
Magic!
A dear friend of mine uses this word often. When good things happen, when we feel good about ourselves, when the vibrations are high and good......it's Magic! Magic doesn't just happen though. It takes a world of people working on themselves, and then radiating magic out to others. Once we heal and no longer feel like we are the victim of others, but the victim of ourselves, we are then able to feel true happiness. The black cloud we once felt around certain people, it just lifts. This is because we have purged the black cloud within ourselves. Magic!