I know what you mean, I am the same, whilst I love the rewards, I get a bit sad when I see a post has 50 votes but only 8 views and 2 comments. Especially when I've written one that I think will spark lots of debate.
All in all, I can't complain because I do get a lot of attention; however at the moment I am just trying to engage with people who like you, enjoy engaging and want to read and comment on other people's posts.
Keep it up, it will happen for you soon, you have the right attitude.
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