Awesome! I was so hoping it was you! That's so exciting!

No, obviously I'd be sad if she wasn't in my life, but I honestly do think that I'd be happy for her if she was with someone that made her happier than I could. We never wanted to get married because we didn't like what that did to people's relationships... people just kind of stop trying or putting effort into their SO. We wanted a situation where if we needed to walk away because it wasn't working then we could... and both knowing that made sure we put the effort in. Relationships are hard, real hard, and I don't think they're for everyone... but I understand how lucky we are to fundamentally agree on so many things.

We ended up getting married, it made our move to the US much easier, but we still treat the relationship the same.

I'm honestly not sure we should be commit to one person forever without restrictions. You wouldn't agree to that deal in any other situation in life... things change, people change, situations change... and I think we should be able to adjust with those changes. Lots of older men just become grumpy with age and make everyone around them miserable... should they be in a relationship because they were awesome 30 years earlier? It's a tough one to answer...

I think it's absolutely okay to have expectations...