Hey Hive account@aussieninja! Yes, it's Hive account@cabernet. I made a different account for posting random short things on zappl. Also found that my nickname "reez" was available so really wanted that username for myself :D

if someone else was better for her, I love her enough to want that change for her.

This kind of answers my question I think. Trusting her and understanding that if she were to not be in your life anymore, you won't be depressed or devastate. I mean, maybe you will be but you will be able to think about it logically.

Maybe, in this monogamous society, we have evolved to want to be in relationships with some level of expectations: expectations like staying healthy, staying in shape, having a job so both can support the family, both wanting to have kids, staying committed to each other, etc.

So, if we've committed ourselves to one and only one person, maybe it is ok to have some expectations? Not sure.. But worth thinking about!