I feel for you. Your story reminds me of this movie called, War Room (2015). In the movie he was going his own way and she just wasn't sure how to handle it. Please do what ever you can and get this movie. I have watched it several times. I think you will get your answers. On Amazon it has 5 stars out of 5 stars by 6,749 votes. She started to change and that forced him to change also. Before you do anything watch that movie.