Hi, dear Steemians!
One of the greatest misconceptions of society on a large scale is the idea that by rejecting someone’s request or saying no to them, we lose our chance to be regarded as decent and nice fellows!
The single most heartwarming word in any language is the affirmative ‘yes’, while the most difficult is ‘no’, in both regards as saying and hearing them. The truth is that you will meet an innumerable amount of people in your life, and there will come a day when each and every one of them will ask you for something. Now, it is kind and decent to answer the calls of those that are in need, but not all of these requests are distress calls for help.
Sometimes, we are in codependent relationships that do nothing but waste our heart and play with our emotions. Sometimes, we are friends with people who tend to hang out everyday and we come to the realization that this tendency is reducing our productivity and efficiency regarding the things that we have to do to achieve our dreams. Sometimes, we ourselves have tendencies that come in the way of our efficiency and time management goals.
Trust me friends, too many loose ends will make us all full of shame and regret, desperately trying to buy back the time that we have lost amongst people that are a priority to us, while all we are to them is an option.
So, how do we find the courage and the power to say ‘no’ to other people and ourselves?
Saying ‘no’ is indeed difficult. When it comes to saying no, our primary concern is the emotion of the person that we are dealing with. What if they get hurt? What if we come off as rude and disrespectful to their wishes? What if they take it as a bad sign and break out of the relationship that we have with them? A world of ‘what if’s that eventually compel you to forsake such rejection and give into something that is not your heart’s desire.
As you become more organized, successful, and eventually famous, more people will be attracted to you. They will all expect to receive something from your acquaintance or friendship. That is not a strange desire. It is the fundamental cornerstone of every relationship. But the extent to which you agree to this storm of requests matters.
You will not necessarily come off as disrespectful if you know how to steer clear of such requests and nonchalantly push them out of your way. Most people get it wrong; the subtle art of saying ‘no’ is not in the utterance of the word itself, but in conveying the meaning of that word without being rude or disrespectful to the people who have these requests from us.
For instance, when it comes to a group of friends that just wish to hang out with you, it is an easy equation. If you show them the value of the work you are doing and how much it matters to your life and your future, they will be appreciative of your will and respect you for that. Otherwise, I can safely say that they are not good friends!
As for learning to say no to yourself, you need to understand a simple principle. Our creative mind is constantly conjuring up ideas and dreams with which we can easily get distracted. We tend to forget what we originally set out to do and get sidestepped by new intriguing ideas.
You constantly need to make a decision in your mind; to commit to what you are doing now, and storing your new ideas in a safe corner of your mind. These new intriguing ideas are basically like the endless requests of those around you. They are always coming at you and they always expect your attention. But this attention might not be in your best interest.
A BIG HUG!
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Important Note!
I have been working very hard on this blog since the beginning. I have a very busy life but I am giving my best and believe me I have shared experiences that I have been coaching thousands of people and I know that the change of the Mindset should be daily. I am already grateful to see you giving upvotes to each other and you can see this with the fact that many already have 8, 9, 10 upvotes. But I'm sure that with the effort of all of us we will see a community with, 40, 50, 80 upvotes and for that everyone should get engaged so we can make it come true. I believe and we can! Resteem...
***Remember Community: Please, if you commented and upvote on a new post I did, please always go back to the previous one because if someone in the community commented lastly because of time zone differences it will be without your upvote and that would not be fair.
You all know the goal! We can reach: 50+ Upvotes each others!
Attention!!!
I'm reading all the meaningful comments from the posts.
I am here making a list of all of you who have helped build this community by voting for each other who write meaningful comments and soon I will respond to everyone with comment and thank you all because I can already see this spirit being built in this Positive Mindset community and help between all of you.
You will receive my upvote in all material and brief comments I will do this in all the posts I am following very closely and I can see what the people who are generous and contribute to this legacy that I am trying to build with all of you can become reality in a short time.
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First of all, I would like to thank all of you, who are the most active and proactive in this community, showing your generosity and always with meaningful comments. From now on I will always make a list of these incredible people who have helped to expand our goal of growing ever more.
But I ask that if you are new around here you read many of the previous posts because they make it clear that we are building a community with respect among all, generosity and this blog is for those who really want to start moving their Mindset to positive and moreover be part of the growth of all of us who contribute to this blog. Please do not ask to include you in the list if you are just wanting upvotes because we want here people genuinely attuned to growth and good attitudes and as I have always said with Respect as the basis of all, generosity and positivity!
ABOUT OUR LIST!!! WE NEED GROW THIS LIST! LET'S GO TOGETHER IN THIS COMMUNITY - RESTEEM!
Feel free if you want to be included in the list of contributors to this community. Just ask at the end of your comment.
Thanks All of You!!!!